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Mostly Friends only. I'll try to find a pretty little graphic for you. Comment to be added, let me know if I know you, or from where you know my journal. Thanks! :-)

Hollaback and Posting harassers information

This is brought over from our twitter discussion, because it is too long to have in 140 characters :)

iHollaback is a new promotion from the HollabackNYC website. While I think NYC is the first one, this phenomenon has spread over the globe to multiple cities and countries.

The premise is that women and LGBTQ individuals who are harassed on the street can take a photo, and upload it to the website. The blogs exist in the same format, just on a time delay.

I think this is a great thing. I think that there are so few opportunities for women to report their harassment and not get revictimized, and this use of technology is a good thing.

I also think there should be some recourse for harassers who get posted on these websites. If they can explain their actions, and they are not harassment, they should be able to get their pictures and stories removed. This, however, is a tricky thing. So many times men explain away their harassment as "I was just trying to talk to her" or "shes taking it the wrong way" that harassment is so much about how the person feels.

I only agree to this "outing" as it is 1) done in public spaces, 2) done in full view of other people (if any are around), 3) are illegal. (For information, see HollabackNYC NYC Harassment Statute.)

"Elvis cupcakes: miniature banana and chocolate chip cupcakes with peanut butter frosting, garnished with bacon, then battered, deep fried, and drizzled with honey."

Must. Have.

(Oh, and I have all the ingredients to make http://blog.kingarthurflour.com/2009/08/20/baking-outside-the-box-grilled-chocolate/ , which may be tonight.) :)

(Cross posted to trashy_eats


So, in order to balance out the cold, I bring you this story from the New York Times.


Relevant Quotes:

"Not a single day that the temperature even approached 90. For just the second time in 140 years of record keeping, the temperature failed to reach 90 in either June or July.

The daily average last month was at or below normal every day but two. The temperature broke 80 on 16 days in New York — one more day than in Fairbanks, Alaska."

"The high was 86 on July 17. "

(Granted, Fairbanks, Alaska had a month of record high temperatures. The highest reading was 91 on July 8. Still, reminds me of the time that Austin was hotter than Death Valley.)

Pasta Hot Dogs


I seriously need to make these. I wonder how it would work with fancy sausage and whole wheat pasta? Or I just need to break down and buy trashy hot dogs :)

Holy Crap

BTW, I wish this was an april fools joke. It isnt.)


Approximately 1 in 70 New Yorkers is infected with HIV, but the proportion of people in different groups who are infected varies widely:

* 1 in 40 African Americans.
* 1 in 25 men living in Manhattan.
* 1 in 12 black men age 40-49 years.
* 1 in 10 men who have sex with men.
* 1 in 8 injection drug users.
* 1 in 5 black men age 40-49 in Manhattan.
* 1 in 4 men who have sex with men in Chelsea.

Link from Post Secret

"For almost all of us, one of the reasons that we liked science in high school and college is that we were good at it. That can't be the only reason – fascination with understanding the physical world and an emotional need to discover new things has to enter into it too. But high-school and college science means taking courses, and doing well in courses means getting the right answers on tests. If you know those answers, you do well and get to feel smart.

A Ph.D., in which you have to do a research project, is a whole different thing. For me, it was a daunting task. How could I possibly frame the questions that would lead to significant discoveries; design and interpret an experiment so that the conclusions were absolutely convincing; foresee difficulties and see ways around them, or, failing that, solve them when they occurred? My Ph.D. project was somewhat interdisciplinary and, for a while, whenever I ran into a problem, I pestered the faculty in my department who were experts in the various disciplines that I needed. I remember the day when Henry Taube (who won the Nobel Prize two years later) told me he didn't know how to solve the problem I was having in his area. I was a third-year graduate student and I figured that Taube knew about 1000 times more than I did (conservative estimate). If he didn't have the answer, nobody did.

That's when it hit me: nobody did. That's why it was a research problem. And being my research problem, it was up to me to solve. Once I faced that fact, I solved the problem in a couple of days. (It wasn't really very hard; I just had to try a few things.) The crucial lesson was that the scope of things I didn't know wasn't merely vast; it was, for all practical purposes, infinite. That realization, instead of being discouraging, was liberating. If our ignorance is infinite, the only possible course of action is to muddle through as best we can."

Bacon Burger

I shall make this. Oh, yes. This will be mine.


From the comments: valatan "I think that might actually affect my vegetarian brain in the same way that a catalog of cross jewelry might affect a vampire."

kitten_dreamz "I think my brain just short circuited. I'm not even sure how I would not manage to go into immediate cardiac arrest breathing in the fumes of that, let alone attempting to digest it. o.O"

Kink for All

(I have signed up to present!)


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What: A no-limits sex-positive gender and sexuality unconference.
Why: To inspire a creative, interactive and open environment where everyone feels comfortable talking, learning, and being inspired by all kinds of sexuality.
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